Our conversation and his comments last night have me thinking on how others perceive us in comparison to how we perceive ourselves. His comment was that I needed to learn to spend time by myself. Huh? His perception is that I surround myself with people and don’t know how to be by myself. Read a book or hike or work on your projects or something for you, he said…. *blink*
I’m still scratching my head. Because what others see and perceive as truth may not be.
My perspective is that I spend a great deal of time by myself. Most of my activities are solo and have been for a very long time. His perspective is clearly not the same. An incomplete picture?
Let see, in any two week period there are 3 community events I attend, another evening I work with my Rope Top; I see Chris twice in that period on Mondays and have dinner together once, I generally see Gene once ever two weeks, I’ve been helping the commenter once a week and manage to have a “date” once every 2 weeks. Soooooo…In 14 days, I have 10 “things” I do with others. Only my time with my Anam Cara once every 2 weeks spans 24 hours.
See, my perspective is that I am alone at least 50% of the time or more. What he sees is me at his house or at those community events. And for some reason this translates into “social butterfly” who does not know how to be alone. His perspective is that I am out and about all the time. Mine is that I probably spend way much time alone. Especially when I think about those 8 books I’ve read in the past 3 months; the rope and clothespins I’ve dyed, the nine tails I’m working on, repainting the wicker bathroom cabinet, writing; my own chores at the house; hiking; geocaching; garage sales and antique stores. ALONE.
Hmmmmm…..I think we will have a talk about perception being reality. And why I feel the need to prove his version is flawed, lol. Perhaps I see his assessment of me as “less than”?