Five here equals five owed there. A weekend here must equal another weekend there. It’s not about the hours counted and parceled out. It’s about quality time. Not quantity. One happy with a weekend, one happy with an evening, another with a day in the garage or a picnic, yet sometimes an hour for coffee will suffice as catch as catch can. It’s as much about the individual as how much time you have to give. Is EVERYTHING about equal and fair? Isn’t this about balancing want with need of the individual, yourself, and the whole?
We won’t always get what we want. But if you don’t know, because you don’t ask; everyone looses, including you.
When you become rigid in the “schedule” everyone holds on to their piece so tightly there is no room for flexibility. Because we don’t exactly know how to do this on our own, do you now have to rule with force by demanding and issuing orders? Do you then become resentful even though that is the rule you set before us to live by? Are you teaching us how to be gracious and compassionate towards others with the inflexibility of it all?
Me thinks so. Me thinks we don’t toss these ideas out on the table soon enough. We wait until the situation arises, and then end up doing damage control around hurt feelings that results in your disappointment in us.
We’re a little bit like children learning how to share among ourselves. Do you always want to be the parent who relies on “Because I told you so”? Or the parent who teaches and guides?