Self Control – It is a non-negotiable in my eyes. If you cannot control your own behavior whether you are owned or not, you need to learn how. No one is going to save you. It’s your own responsibility.
Respect – Do not force your opinion on the public. To do so is rude, pretentious and unnecessary. Rudeness is inexcusable no matter how mad, upset or hurt you may feel at that moment.
Honesty and Integrity – Integrity is telling yourself the truth. Honesty is telling the truth to other people ~ Spencer Johnson
Empathy – Try and see the world of others through their eyes. It is irresponsible to believe you know it all or have the right/best approach to this life because you don’t. You only have yours.
Self Knowledge – If you are not self-aware enough to be a productive human outside of the BDSM environment then you have no business entering an adult environment where adult things can and do happen. You will not find happiness until you have found yourself, in any environment.
Self Respect – Especially when in a social environment around strangers. Your energy and behavior will tell strangers who you are without you ever saying a word. You never know who is watching. If you’re telling them you don’t count, then you won’t.
Sense of Humor – When you are embarrassed or offended ask yourself, what damage has really been done here? Does this situation need to be made into a defining moment in my life, by me? Chances are it does not. Let it go, laugh at yourself and move on.
Accountability – There are few “nearly perfect” people in the world and likely even less in the BDSM environment. Mistakes will happen. When it’s yours, own it. Admit it to yourself and to the others involved. Apologize. Mean it. Follow through. Fix it so you don’t make the same mistakes again and again. Keep trying and remember all of the great qualities you have to offer.