Category Archives: Ponderings

pondering the authenticity buzzword

…genuine, real, bona fide, not fake or counterfeit, reliable, trustworthy, credible… … being true to one’s own personality, spirit, or character, despite external pressures… Authentic is Real. Real is, at the end of the day, when you are lying in … Continue reading

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Where have you gone

Where have you gone, Joe DiMaggio, Our nation turns its lonely eyes to you. Pondering heroes of today with a national and global viewpoint. Do we even have them? Do we need them? Not that I think there aren’t heroes….firefighters, … Continue reading

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dust in the wind…..

Musings from a past life…. Over the past 8 years and after the breakup of my last marriage of 15 years, I have found deeper intimacy and in turn deeper love than I ever thought possible with “solo poly”. I … Continue reading

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not easy

Nope.  I’m not easy.  But, I’m not particularly difficult, either.  Complicated? Well….I prefer to think of it as…many faceted.  I’m human, after all. My love of Black n White notwithstanding…..Few things in life are actually black and white. Mostly, I … Continue reading

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the unexplained

I’m a bit reluctant to post this but what the hell. I’ve been stewing in it for about a month now and it’s time to give it a rest. A few weeks before Christmas, I was sitting having a smoke … Continue reading

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crime and punishment

Newtons 3rd Law of Motion: For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. Perhaps one should consider not just the re-action when assessing damage, guilt, crime and punishment, but the initial action as well. Isn’t it a pity … Continue reading

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Not…..

It is not what it appears. I understand being fallible and have empathy for the human condition as I am not always consistent with words or actions myself. At times, the dragons I thought I conquered are still dragons hiding … Continue reading

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morning thoughts

Most of the time, it’s this: The hurt little girl is too scared to let go. How can I be submissive except in those rare, fleeting moments, if I cannot release the hurt little girl? How can I come from … Continue reading

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morning ponder

How? to keep the rusty, iron gate from shutting me both in and out of where I need to go….

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